When It Comes to Writing Online Dating Profiles, It’s Not Only What You Say But How You Say It
“Your profile is confessional and reads like a memoir. It’s honest, sad in parts, but ultimately uplifting.”
“I can definitely tell you are a writer. One of the best profiles I have read so far! My favorite part is the “definitely message me” section. Pretty funny. You seem like you have had a very interesting life to this point.”
“What a nice read that was. Definitely seems like you put some thought into writing your profile. I enjoyed it and would like to chat sometime.”
“I enjoyed reading your thoughtful and witty profile as it conveyed the sense of a real person.”
These were a few of the comments I received after revamping my online dating profile a few years ago, some of them within moments of posting my rewrite. The last message actually came from a man I had one date with who did not recognize me after reading my new essay.
Sure, I had rewritten my profile dozens of times since I began using online dating sites and apps after separating from my husband of more than 16 years back in 2012. But somehow I never seemed to hit the nail right on the head, never quite portraying who I was and what I wanted in my next relationship. Because of that, I consistently attracted men I was not interested in dating.
